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Avoiding the Dictator Trap

This Atlantic article on how Putin has fallen into the Dictator trap got me thinking about how to avoid this as a business or team leader. How could a manager, team or project leader have to worry about being a dictator?

In the course of a 25 year career, I have observed many team and corporate leaders who don’t realize that everyone on their team is agreeing with them.

That’s a key element of the dictator trap.

“despots rarely get told that their stupid ideas are stupid, or that their ill-conceived wars are likely to be catastrophic. Offering honest criticism is a deadly game and most advisers avoid doing so. Those who dare to gamble eventually lose and are purged. So over time, the advisers who remain are usually yes-men who act like bobbleheads, nodding along when the despot outlines some crackpot scheme.”

Yes, we aren’t launching wars or having people imprisoned or worse, but people like to be liked, and people like to be told their ideas are good. However, if you aren’t specifically on guard for this, and more importantly building a team culture that not only allows, but encourages, hell even requires even that people speak up and challenge ideas then you will end up with a team who will just go and execute your poorly conceived project plan.

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The next team meeting you have, really listen to how your team reacts to your ideas. There will be some who immediately agree, and some who say nothing until they see where the team lands, and then they’ll agree what a great idea it is. Some may say nothing. But does anyone disagree or at least offer risks or ideas to improve your suggestion?

So what can you do as a leader to guard against this?

Speak last – Pose a question or bring an issue to your team’s attention, but rather than proceeding to share what you think should be done about it, ask the team for ideas. And. Just. Wait.
Call on people – If no one speaks up, then ask someone.
Call on other people – Be sure that you are hearing from the whole team, especially those who don’t normally share. Ask for their input and actually listen. Ask follow up questions to show you did.
Create a safe space for negative thinking
- I’ve written before about the value of a Pre-Mortem which is one tool for creating space for teams to think about failure without being negative or being worried about being perceived as a Chicken Little.
- Something else that I learned during my time in Special Operations is coming up with multiple COAs, or courses of action, then gaming each one out. Challenge the team to come up with more than one approach to solve an issue or take advantage of an opportunity. Far too often in today’s fast paced world, I have seen teams converge on a solution before really identifying other options. Coming up with 2-3 COAs then asking the team what can go wrong with each allows them to offer critiques without the risk of them being perceived as being ‘negative’. (Alternatively, develop a full SWOT if warranted.)
Do not tolerate agreement – sycophants are dangerous, and not just to the project or issue at hand, if you are constantly told you are amazing, your inflated ego may get you into some serious trouble at some point. Ask your team, for example “I’m glad we like this option, but why? What are its strengths and weaknesses?”
Be patient with negativity – a negative team member may be one of the hardest team members to deal with, but don’t allow yourself to get upset or impatient, they may just be a significant asset. If you shut down team members who speak up, they won’t do it next time, and the rest of the team will get that message. Ask, “I can see you’re upset/don’t agree with this, tell me why, what am I missing? How might we address you’re concern?”
Look for opportunities to change your mind – if you really want your team to trust you by being vulnerable and disagreeing, they have to see that you are able to change your mind, or go with an idea other than your own. If you are uncomfortable with this, you might have control issues you need to deal with, but then start with something lower risk and work up from there.
Be careful with a ‘can-do’ culture – I have more to say about this in another post, but while a can-do culture can be positive, if you’re not careful it can become toxic in its own right, leading to a lack of critical thinking. Don’t let people just agree. Dig in, ask why, how, what else, what could we be missing?

Is this hard? It can be. But that’s your job, if you want to be a leader your comfort can’t be your first concern. If you have trouble with this idea, you aren’t a leader.

Is it going to take more time? Sure, upfront. But your team will end up with a better solution/product/plan and you will spend far less time refactoring and dealing with issues. Remember the old cynical software project management maxim:

There is never enough time to do it right, but there is always enough time to do it over.
Every grumpy software project manager

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On Becoming a Stoic

A Marcus Aurelius quote I had clipped over 25 years ago.

My journey to Stoicism began before I was born. In fact I am not sure where, when, how, or over what time period, but it began with my grandfather, Rick Leonard.

He always used to say “Learning to live is an art” and he had a copy of the serenity prayer in his bed room for as long as I can remember. If you aren’t familiar with it, it goes:

God grant me the serenity to
accept the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can,
and the Wisdom to know the difference.
Reinhold Niebuhr, Reference: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Serenity_Prayer

I didn’t know it at the time, but both these sentiments are at the heart of Stoicism.

The notion is that learning to live is something you need to work at and practice (some would say train) for, and as an art isn’t black and white, and you are never done with the job of making your best self.

And for those familiar with Stoicism, the serenity prayer can be said another way:

See things for what they are.
Do what we can.
Endure and bear what we must.
Ryan Holiday, The Obstacle is the Way

That latter quote coming from one of the most read recent rearticulations of Stoicism for the modern person. Discovering and then reading it brought together a lot of threads in my life, from the teachings of my grandfather that in hindsight contained so much stoic thinking that it is hard from me to believe he hadn’t read some of its primary texts, to my time in the US Army which is deeply imbued with the stoic ethos, to even my time in the corporate world where I picked up little stoic maxims without realizing it over the decades.

While you might say I have had elements of a stoic mindset for my whole life, it was listening to the Tim Ferriss podcast that formally introduced me to approach Stoicism as a way to live. Ferriss calls it his “personal operating system” and a way to stay focused on activities that make a difference, and avoiding wasting energy and time on things that don’t. Ferriss regularly features Ryan Holiday, who along with a host of accomplishments is a leading thinker and proponent of modern Stoic thought. So I bought and read his books, which led me to the older texts, especially Marcus Aurelius‘s Meditations.

I felt like I had been give access to some secret texts that the Great People throughout history have turned to, not for solace or a promise of a better life in the hereafter, but for the strength to dig deep and keep going, to persevere, to push forward, literally one step at a time in some cases. In fact it is a simple yet powerful life view that has brought me the strength and focus to achieve many things in my life that I had absolutely no business doing. That is not to say that this path is easy, it demands that you hold yourself accountable even when no one else will.

In this day and age it has become a troupe that we are to0 soft and too weak, the younger generation has lost its way, etc. (hmm, when have I heard that before). I have a lot to say about how wrong that is, but the point here is that the fact that stoicism is gaining so attention and interest over the last several years is an encouraging sign that there are plenty of people ready to pick up the mantle of responsibility.

I am about to start a 14 Day Stoic Challenge and will document that process here. So I wanted to put down some initial thought on how I have arrived at Stoicism before that starts, and depending on how it goes, I may write more of my thoughts on relating Stoicism to life and business.

On leaving Sapient and 3 lessons learnt

A few months ago I left Sapient, the company where I had worked for 15 years.

Whaaaaat? You left Sapient!?!?

That has been the most common response I’ve gotten, and it’s understandable as 15 years is a long time, and being a “Sape” had in many ways become part of my identity. As I wrote my farewell email, it struck me how many people I wanted to thank for the help and support in my career who are no longer at Sapient. So thank you to the innumerable people I have worked with over the years for your advice, support, encouragement and laughs – in ways big and small you made an impact on my career and my life.

As I move on to a new chapter in my career, I took some time to reflect on what I learned, and want to share the 3 I feel are most impactful. These are by no means unique observations about Sapient, nor unique to Sapient. However, in my 20 years of professional experience, including other consultancies, two startups, and dozens of clients, finding a organization with these attributes is rare.

Culture

You cannot talk about Sapient, especially in the early years, without talking about culture. We were obsessed with building a culture that would build a great company. How we chose to define our culture is interesting in itself, and is the subject of an HBS case study. What your culture is should be unique to each company and relate to your business context and purpose. However how you craft, promote, and use your culture is what I want to highlight here. My observation is that corporate culture is either what you get or what you do. Meaning, if your culture is a set of values that hang on the wall, rather than a shared set of expectations and values that you use every day to make decisions and shape behaviour, then you aren’t crafting a culture, and you will simply get the culture that your employees bring in with them. To make a culture a cohesive force I believe you have to use it daily, you have to talk about it with your teams, you have to visibly use it in your decision making. And most difficult of all, you have to, as we used to say, reject non-fits like a virus. Sounds harsh, but time and again I have seen people of great skill and experience who were culturally poisonous retained in organizations well past the point where the damage they were doing was greater than the benefits they brought to company. No doubt this is a hard decision to make, but forcing the conversation is the difference between believing in your culture as an asset versus a slogan.

Openness

Openness means different things to different people, but in the context of Sapient it meant being direct and generous with your feedback to others, and more difficult, open to hearing the generous amount of feedback you were going to get. Every day. I believe this was essential to developing a learning organization, where at our best we were in a state of continuous improvement for years. We would debrief as a team not just at the end of an iteration, but after every client presentation, meeting, or checkpoint. During our intense workshop sessions we would debrief at lunch and the end of day. By debrief, I mean we went around the room and critiqued ourselves not just as a team but each other. Now, some feedback and coaching experts will tell you that constructive feedback should be given one on one, not publicly. And that works for individual coaching, but we were trying to raise the game of the whole team, and it worked. If everyone heard everyone else’s feedback they could learn from each other. It requires a culture of trust at the team level for sure, and it wasn’t for everyone, but if you had “purple in your blood” as we used to say, it was what you expected.

People

Like many companies Sapient certainly focused on hiring bright, talented, ambitious people. And being in Cambridge, MA certainly gave us access to lots of that kind of talent. But it was a focus on people, and in particular people growth, as we used to call it, that I feel accelerated the growth of the company. Almost all companies today say people are there most important asset. But executives and managers at many companies don’t behave that way. At the time, Sapient made a decision to aggressively manage the growth of the entire company. So what does that mean? It meant in our case not just the feedback intensive culture and openness discussed above. It also meant constantly looking at our team, whether it was a project team, an account team, the office or region’s leadership, and actively looking for, or creating, opportunities to push people out of their comfort zones. Because we believed (and we experienced) that is where people grew the most. It was our own take on that old adage that sometimes the role makes the person. And that is so unlike most of corporate America in my experience, where if we need a new leadership role the most likely place to look for it is outside.

What was also really different is we used to talk about it as a whole office, and I remember we’d draw the simple diagram to the right on the board to explain, we are choosing to live right on the edge of growth and failure, because that is how we are all going to grow the most. And just as importantly, when people struggled or failed, that had to okay. It meant we knew where they needed coaching and support, and at that moment, it’s critical to dial it back a little and give them the support to work on those growth areas. Was that perfectly executed? I am sure not, and I may have been lucky in the people who I reported to, but nonetheless, that was definitely my experience for the bulk of my tenure.

So that’s my two cents. Disagree or have something to add, leave a comment.